Are you addicted? You probably are running through the list of things that you do to see if you’ve got an addiction problem. That’s not what we’re talking about in this episode.
In this episode, we’re talking about the addiction to negative thinking and of course, how you can stop.
IN THIS EPISODE
0:24 We’re talking about addictions today. Not addictions to drug, alcohol or food. We’re talking about your addiction to negative thoughts.
0:37 What triggers negative thoughts and emotion and how can you start to reframe or avoid them so you can feel better all the time. When you feel better, life is better and your vibe is higher. You’re attracting into your life people who are happy, abundant and things that bring more money.
2:03 We are a high vibe party and high vibe people. And you can’t do that if everything that goes through your head sucks and is negative.
2:47 Being happy is a choice. It’s also an action to the things in our life. It’s a way to stay comfortable or rewarding ourself.
3:17 Addiction, according to Wikipedia, is a brain disorder characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences.
4:03 If you’ve watched this happen, you ask why is this happening. If it was you, you’ve known what you’re thinking and feeling. I’ve known people who have tried to quit smoking. It’s those triggers where you react and allow it to push you over the edge or out of control. You get put into a place where you want to be in a place that is safe and feels better. So you reach for this compulsive behavior or thought. It feels good temporarily, but in the end, it’s sabotage.
6:05 At the end of the day if you feel depleted, sad, anxious, jealous or just not good, (I’m not talking major chemical imbalances) where you’re letting your reactions or emotions impact you. Let’s look at some examples and how we can change that so we can start feeling amazing.
7:31 Your social circles. You are the average of the five people you hang out with. Your income is the average of the five people you hang out with. Are they high vibing and happy? Or are they complaining, gossiping and not happy? Depending on how those conversations go, they make you feel good or like crap.
I mentioned the income, hang out with people who are happy about the ways they’re making money, instead of complaining about the system. Stay away from people who complain about money.
10:28 Our environment. Are you going to the mall and spend more than you should? Do you hide bags in the closet because you’re afraid that someone will find out how much you spend, that’s not giving you a good feeling. You might feel guilt, shame and buyers remorse. You might pay off those credit cards, but when you want to feel better, you go right back to spending with them and it becomes an endless cycle.
12:42 Your environment might also be driving around rich neighborhoods. For me in Michigan, this was driving up Grose Point and seeing all these beautiful, big houses. When I was a teen, it felt good to drive down this road and dream. I got to a point where it started feeling bad because it seemed like I’d never get that, or I felt like I’d never measure up. The simple solution is to stay off the road and now allow yourself to go down that road. It’s a decision that I had to make consciously to stay away. Your environment can affect your emotions and thinking patterns. Think about this throughout the day and check in with yourself.
16:28 Ask yourself how you’re feeling and tell yourself you’re only going to allow yourself to feel that good or better during the day. Make conscious decisions to surround yourself with people and things who will bring you up.
16:58 Do you watch the news to catch the weather or the latest stories. And then when you leave, do you feel like you’re going to get mugged or like you need a bodyguard to pump your gas. That fear attracts what happens. Your vibe attracts what happens to you. If you’re saying “I don’t want to get mugged” the universe hears that as “I want to get mugged” and those things will start being fulfilled.
19:08 How do you start replacing and reframing. Avoiding is one thing – avoid the situations that result in the negative thinking in the long run. If you find yourself spending time on Facebook and feeling yuck, stay off Facebook. If social circles make you feel like you’re not the person you could be, then remove yourself from that circle. What if you watch the news and think about all the negativity happen in five minutes. You could catch the news through email services where you can subscribe and get it in your inbox or through an app for news and weather. If the mall is your thing, leave your credit cards at home. Put them in a bowl, fill it with water and freeze it. Take cash to the mall. After you’ve started to make some shifts, celebrate! Notice how good you feel. Celebrate little wins.
22:53 Pay attention to how you feel every day. Make a list of things that trigger you every day. Start writing them down. Then jot down how you can avoid that situation or reframe that situation to replace your normal behavior. And then figure out how you will celebrate.
- We’re talking about your addiction to negative thoughts.
- At the end of the day if you feel depleted, sad, anxious, jealous or just not good, where are you letting your reactions or emotions impact you.
- Hang out with people who are happy about the ways they’re making money, instead of complaining.
- Our environment can affect your emotions and thinking patterns.
- Pay attention to how you feel every day.
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